My favorites

My client's favorites

These are resources I have gone back to time and time again and directly or indirectly informed the work I do with clients.

Books

Beyond Blame, Dr. Carl Alasko - This book challenges the core of how we communicate when we want someone to change their behavior (partners, parents, children, employees etc.). It describes a crushing, blaming behavior that is so common we all believe it is normal and an appropriate way to communicate. The book offers easily accessible options to communicate in non-blaming and shaming ways.

How To Be An Adult in Relationships, David Richo - This author puts forth five 'A's' of a healthy relationship attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing.

Videos

Just Breathe. Anger in elementary School kids; how it affects their brains; and how mindfulness can help.

Release. Stress & anxiety in middle schoolers in their own words with a quick lesson in mindfulness.

Websites

Centre for Clinical Interventions - ​Comprehensive collection of client workbooks, well developed, easy to read and and use on anxiety, assertiveness, bi-polar, body dysmorphia, disordered eating, health anxiety, panic, perfectionism, procrastination, self-compassion, self-esteem, sleep, social anxiety, tolerating distress (read anger and other intense emotions), and worry and rumination.

​Apps

• Buddhify • ​A colorful (read joyful) app that helps add some quiet and calm to busy days and multi-tasking without having to add another separate "event" to the day.

Articles

• “I love watching you play!”, Singapore American Newspaper, June-July 2016
• Technology Use and Keystone Habits!, Canadian International School, May 2015 
• Children’s Allowances—Why? When? How? And How Much?, Singapore American Newspaper, March 2015
• Building a Parent Community, Singapore American Newspaper, May 2014
• Youth’s Computers Belong in Public Space, Singapore American Newspaper, 2013
• Meeee! Miiiiiine! Nooooow!, Singapore American Newspaper, May 2012
• Teen Tone & Babies First Words, Singapore American Newspaper, 2011
• Meanest Parent on the Block: Values Based Parenting, Singapore American Newspaper, May 2011
• Resilience, Flexibility, the Ability to Bounce Back?, Singapore American Newspaper, 2011
• It’s All About Me, Isn’t It?, Singapore American Newspaper, October 2010
• Loving Yourself – What does that have to do with Valentines Day?, Singapore American Newspaper, February 2010
• Raising Children With a Sense of Entitlement: Asset or Liability, Singapore American Newspaper, 2009
• What does chocolate have to do with willpower?, Singapore American Newspaper, December 2009
• Problem-Solving With Your Child/Teen, Singapore American Newspaper, 2008
• Gaming—A Parent’s Response, Singapore American Newspaper, 2008
• What about the employee? The Missing Link Business Continuity Management, Singapore American Newspaper, November 2008

This an curated list of resources clients have found useful. I haven't been able to read, watch or use yet, but wanted to make them available in case they can be useful to others.


The Subtle Art of Not Giving Giving a F*ck, Mark Manson Basically, I am told this book helps to "give less f*cks!" Trying to not "care too much" which often feels like having oneself wrapped up worrying about stuff that no one else is spending time on or giving a second thought about.

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